Planning my wedding was truly SO fun for me! Yes, it was stressful at times but overall it was one of my very favorite seasons of life thus far and I already miss it ha! I love getting questions about the whole wedding planning process whether it’s from reader babes or when you tell a random person you just got married – people are always so kind and genuinely interested in all of it.
Today, I am sharing a few things that I wish I would’ve known before/while planning + things that helped make our wedding the best day ever. Now, I’ve literally planned ONE wedding (my own, although I’ve been a major involved maid of honor three times) so I am no expert on the topic but I’ve received lots of questions about certain details and such so I wanted to share my advice for any of you who are planning a wedding or have a loved one getting married soon!
1. Having a Day-Of Wedding Coordinator Was The Very BEST Decision I Made.
I was absolutely NOT going to book a wedding planner, at all. I had a very clear vision of what I wanted for my wedding and between my mom, sister and I, we are pretty creative so I thought we could handle it. As I started looking around at venues in California, a TON require that you have at least a day of coordinator (this was when I was looking at venues – where I got married, Sunset Cliffs, isn’t technically a venue so although I wasn’t forced to book a planner at this location, I still did!). So, I researched what they actually do and was BLOWN AWAY. I found Aubrey from Details, Darling and after one phone call with her I wanted to be her best friend lol. During the planning process she gave me tons of vendor recommendations that she knew would fit my style, endlessly design ideas and tons of emails – she was so helpful! On the day of the wedding, I literally gave her allll my wedding ceremony details in random boxes and I arrived to my ceremony site looking absolutely perfect. She was heaven sent! If you’re wedding is in California, there is no point to book anyone but her (or her sister)! A day of coordinator takes all of stress off of you and your family members on the day of the wedding, they make sure all your vendors know what is going on, everyone is on time, etc. It sounds like just an extra expense at first but I truly don’t know what I would’ve done without a day-of planner. K, I could talk about my planner forever so just book one. You will thank yourself for doing so!
2. Don’t Be Bridezilla Over Everything.
Well, don’t be bridezilla at all. When you feel frustrated just take a breath and remember why you are doing all this planning anyways…to marry the guy of your dreams – nothing else really matters! Easier said then done but understand that people still have lives outside of your wedding. Sure, it’s all you’re thinking about but unless you ask for help people aren’t going to know what you need.
Long story short, I went to pick up my wedding dress one week before the wedding from the tailor and there were massive yellowish stains all across the bottom!!! I didn’t freak out on anyone over it (I just sat down and cried ?) and it ended up just steaming right out. I honestly think that was my reward for being nice lol. Not everything is going to go perfectly! Embrace it. The more pleasant you are more excited and helpful others will be. Just have some wine and chill out ha!
3. Figure Out Your True Wedding Vision BEFORE You Book Anything.
You’re probably thinking, well obviously! But I got caught up in thinking I needed a formal venue, worrying about who I was and wasn’t inviting and just simply coming down to the wire where I needed to book something. We ended up booking this venue I was whatever about with a guest list of 120 and one day I woke up and was like “What the heck am I doing? This is NOT what I want for my wedding!!!” We cancelled that venue (lost $$$), I cut my guest list down to 50 people and booked a very informal ceremony site that was exactly what I wanted!
4. Figure Out A Few Key Elements That Are Most Important To You And Really Focus On Those.
The most important elements to me were the beauty of the ceremony site with stunning florals and killer details. I didn’t care much about the reception because I am not a big foodie nor do I care what fork people are eating off of. So, I booked an awesome private dinning room at a killer restaurant and the whole reception planning was done in like two days (and our reception was so freaking fun). I also didn’t care to save the top of my cake and eat it in a year (I don’t even eat three day old left overs).
Really figure out your most important details and focus on making them amazing! You will drive yourself nuts if you go on Pinterest every single day until the day of your wedding. Find your vision, pin your heart out, then STOP PINNING, stop looking and just stay true to your initial dream wedding. Everything will fall into place once you have that! Also, if you are going to DIY, do it well in advance. Don’t let yourself stress three days before trying to create your dinner menu by hand that no one is even going to pay attention to (guilty ?).
5. Enjoy The Process
I cannot say this enough, enjoy the process of planning your wedding. Enjoy 38 emails a day going over details with vendors. Enjoy ordering something on Etsy every week. Enjoy being a fiancé!!! Embrace it all as it is, so then you can live the dreamiest life with your hubby ?
SHOP MY LOOK
Details, Darling Tee (Yes, these tees are made by my amazing wedding planner – I told you she was awesome) | JEANS (similar here + here) | Straw Hat (similar) | Forever 21 Sandals | James Michelle Bracelet |
Thank you so much for reading this post and please reach out to me if you have any questions at all! Happy planning!